Man and City Wife [Adultery]
a time, there was a well-known teacher who taught in and around
Benares. He had over 500 students. One of these was from the distant
countryside. Knowing little about the ways of city folks, he fell
in love with a Benares girl and married her. After the marriage
he resumed his studies with the famous teacher. But he started missing
classes, sometimes staying away for two or three days at a time.
wife was used to doing whatever she wanted. Even though she was
married to the student, she was not loyal and faithful. She still
had secret boy friends.
just so happened that after she had been with a boy friend, she
acted very humble with her husband. She spoke softly and tried very
hard to please him. But on other days, when she had done nothing
wrong, she was rude and domineering. She yelled at her husband and
nagged him. This drove the man crazy. He was completely confused
by how differently she acted from one day to the next.
countryman was so disturbed that he stayed away from classes. And
while he remained home he discovered that his city wife was unfaithful.
He was upset that he missed school for seven or eight days.
he finally showed up, the famous teacher asked, "Young man,
you have been away so long. What was the matter?" He replied,
"Sir, my wife is cheating on me very much, and acts as humble
as a servant. But on other days she is arrogant and domineering,
rough and rude. I can't figure her out. I don't know what to do
or where to go for help. That's why I couldn't attend your classes."
teacher said, "Young man, don't worry. Rivers can be bathed
in by anyone, rich or poor. Highways too are open to all. Generous
people build roadside rest houses to gain merit, and anyone can
sleep there. Likewise, all are welcome to take water from the village
too, there are some women who won't be faithful to one man. They
love to keep their secret boy friends. That's just the way some
people are. It's hard to understand why they act the way they do.
But why get angry about what you cannot change?
the days when your wife has been with a boy friend, those are the
days she acts meek and mild. But on the days when she has done nothing
wrong, those are the days she acts rough and rude. That's just the
way some people are. So why get angry about what you cannot change?
her the way she is. Treat her in the same understanding way, whether
she is kind or mean to you. Why get angry about what you cannot
student from the countryside followed the famous teacher's advice.
His city wifes behaviour no longer upset him. And when she
realised that her actions were no longer secret, she gave up her
boyfriends and changed her ways.
moral is: Understanding relieves anger.